5 Good Reasons To Get Married While You’re Young

 
Allahumma…teguhkan hati ini..
Tak ada ‘meski’ seharusnya

 

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5 Good Reasons To Get Married While You’re Young, According To Research

 

The average age for Americans getting married has reached a historic high — 27 for women and 29 for men — a jump from the 1990 average marrying age of 23 for women and 26 for men.

While delaying marriage has advantages — a lower divorce rate, higher income for women and fewer and less intense arguments between spouses — studies show there also may be benefits to tying the knot before age 30. (However, there is such a thing as marrying too young. Research shows that marriages beginning when a woman is 18 are twice as likely to end in divorce as those beginning when she is 22.)

Below are five reasons to get married in your 20s.

1. It could make you happier.
According to the National Marriage Project’s 2013 “Knot Yet” report, the highest percentage of people ages 20 to 28 who consider themselves “highly satisfied” with their lives are married, as opposed to single or cohabiting. What’s more, the largest number of women who described their marriage as “very happy” tied the knot when they were 24 to 26. A 2010 study found that “the greatest indicated likelihood of being in an intact marriage of the highest quality is among those who married at ages 22–25.”

2. You’ll make more money (at least if you’re a man).
An analysis of American Community Survey data from 2008 to 2010 revealed that among men in their mid-30s, those who married in their 20s had the highest levels of personal income. Economists have found, in general, that married men earn more than single men — even when you control for other factors like age and education.

3. You’ll have more sex.
Couples who marry in their 20s tend to have more frequent sex than those who marry later. In a 2011 paper, Dana Rotz of Harvard University wrote that “a four year increase in age at marriage is associated with a couple having sex about one time less per month.” What’s more, married people as a whole have more sex than their single counterparts. The sooner you marry, the more time you’ll be spending between the sheets.

4. You’ll drink less alcohol.
A 2012 study published in the Journal of Health and Social Behavior found that married and engaged young adults reported lower frequency of drunkenness than those who are not in a serious romantic relationship. “Marriage and engagement likely carry with them a heightened sense of responsibility and obligation and a less active social calendar, which leads to less drunkenness,” the study’s authors wrote. Laying off alcohol has many health benefits, including weight loss, better sleep, better skin and a reduced risk of some cancers.

5. There’s nothing to be gained from waiting — if you think you’re ready.
We certainly aren’t advocating a rush to the altar, but if you feel like you’re prepared for that next step, go for it. Research says there’s no advantage to delaying marriage just for the sake of delaying it. A 2010 study by sociologists Norval Glenn and Jeremy Uecker states that “A 25-year-old person who meets an excellent marriage prospect would be ill-advised to pass up that opportunity only because he/she feels not yet at the ideal age for marriage. Furthermore, delaying marriage beyond the mid-twenties will lead to the loss during a portion of young adulthood of any emotional and health benefits that a good marriage would bring.”

 

sumber : http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/11/14/married-young_n_4227924.html

tegaslah

Bismillah. Jangan bermain api na, kamu ingin apa sih? Keluarga dan anak keturunan shalihah tapi prosesnya gak bener?
Kalau dia-nya kamu gak sreg dalam pemikiran dan prinsip ber-Islam ya tak usah kontak lagi.
Bukankah kamu ilfil dengan lelaki seperti itu? Lelaki yang leluasa kontak2 dengan akhwat.

Sudah yuk tinggalkan dan jangan diladeni lagi.
Tegas lah jadi perempuan muslim. Malu-mu itu harga dirimu. Jangan kecewakan suami-mu nanti.

Jangan lanjutkan, hentikan, jaga hatimu.

Jaga hatiku Yaa Rabb…..

perbaikan setelah Ramadhan

 
Bismillah..

sampahku berkurang semenjak badai dingin di Pangalengan menerpa, tidaaaak….
(jangan lebai na..)

na, besok dengerin ceramah ustadz Musthafa Umar atau ustadz Hanan Attaqi lalu tulis resume-nya ya (‘:

aku tunggu perbaikan dirimu setelah Ramadhan ini,
minimal dengan meminimalisir hal2 tak berguna,
facebook kita off dulu satu mingguan,
youtube jalan lah ya,
twitter sesekali lah,
buku mu banyak yang harus dibaca : Muslimlah daripada Liberal | Ayah Edy punya Cerita | Tausiah untuk Aktivis Islam | Siyasah Syar’iyyah,
Lebaran gini selain silaturahim, bawa deh buku2 itu kalo pergi2,

Nah untuk akun facebook yg lain,
Post sekena-nya aja pake akun2 publik (sadar kan masih punya amanah disana?)

Lalu?
Laporan kapem (kerja praktik melyana)?
kita rehat satu minggu dulu deh coba,
(rehat mulu dari dulu? dari awal kape banyak rehat kau)
rehat lalu pekan depannya kita coba gerak satu hari full untuk dia, ya untuk dia, untuk dia saja, seorang, hanya dia,

Lalu…
amal yaumi?
pertahankan baca Qur’an sama terjemahnya,
itu aja senjata yang kuperoleh agak maksimal di Bulan Ramadhan,

Puasa Syawal?
mau makan makanan rumah dulu nih,
pekan depannya deh, sip? ok

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random post tapi lumayan (‘:

Agar anak Rajin Bangun Pagi

Nice. Aku org yg ga tega bangunin org yg lagi tidur.

Nak, untuk jd org besar, kita mulai dari bangun pagi ya (:

 

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Agar anak Rajin Bangun Pagi

Agar anak Rajin Bangun Pagi | MotherAndBaby.co.id
 

 

“Anak saya mulai masuk pre-school. Wah, ia semangat dan senang sekali bersekolah. Tapi masalahnya, ternyata ia sulit sekali dibangunkan pada pagi hari. Bagaimana ya agar ia gampang dan rajin bangun pagi?”
Diandra, ibunda Aurelia, 3 tahun

“Saya memiliki tip agar si kecil rajin bangun pagi, Karena ini pernah terjadi pada putri saya, Ella. Untuk bisa bangun pagi, ia pasti menangis dulu dan harus dibujuk-bujuk. Ini terjadi hanya di hari-hari pertama masuk sekolah. Nah, suatu kali ia terlambat bangun sehingga akhirnya ditinggal mobil antar jemput. Untuk menyusul ke sekolah, Ella kecil tidak berani karena pintu gerbang sudah ditutup. Peristiwa itu akhirnya menyadarkan Ella untuk rajin bangun pagi. Tapi selain itu, ada lagi tip lain yang biasa saya lakukan bila ia mulai sering bangun siang: 1. Ella paling telat harus tidur jam 21.00 malam. 2. Saya nyalakan jam weker 30 menit lebih awal. 3. Sebelum Ella bangun, saya putar lagu kesukaannya. Ella pun bersemangat bangun pagi tanpa diawali dengan tangisan. Selamat mencoba!”
Merry, ibunda dari Ella, 7 tahun

“Sebagai ibu bekerja yang kesehariannya harus berangkat kerja jam 7 pagi, maka setiap mandi pagi saya selalu mengajak ke anak saya, Nabilla, untuk ikut mandi bersama. Ternyata dia antusias sekali, karena selama mandi, saya ajak ia bernyanyi, membuat balon dari busa sabun, dan bermain. Jurus ini saya gunakan supaya ia tetap bangun dan mandi pagi, dan juga agar saya pun tetap dekat dengannya. Semoga jurus saya ini bisa dicoba.”
Mia Widyastanti, Ibunda Nabilla Charistya Arianti, 2

“Saya sengaja merekam suara Kayra yang berbunyi: “Ayahhh… Mamaaa…bangun donggg, kita olah raga yuuuk!”, di ring tone alarm ponsel saya dan diatur dengan volume cukup keras dan berulang-ulang setiap pukul 5.30 pagi. Alhasil si kecil senang mendengarkan suara itu dan bangun pagi dengan ceria tanpa ada acara paksa-memaksa. Dia paling senang membangunkan adiknya dan kami pun berolah raga bersama. Karena Kayra rajin bangun pagi, dia sudah terbiasa datang ke sekolah tepat waktu. Yang penting buat anak sih, melihat contoh dari orang tuanya. Kalau kita bangun pagi, mereka pun akan ikut bangun pagi.”
Lya, ibunda Kayra, 3, dan Kal-el, 4 bulan

“Pada awalnya saya sengaja membelikan si kecil jam weker berbentuk ayam dengan berbagai pilihan bunyi. Ada bunyi kokokan ayam, ada juga sapaan, “Good morning!” Si kecil begitu menyukai jam tersebut karena begitu khas bunyinya. Pagi hari, begitu mendengarnya berbunyi, anak saya langsung bangun dan tertawa ceria tanpa perlu berlama-lama membangunkannya. Pada akhirnya, bangun pagi menjadi kebiasaan meski tanpa jam tersebut. Cukup dengan membuka jendela kamar agar cahaya matahari masuk.”
Siska Walintukan, ibu dari Gerardo, 21 bulan

 

sumber : http://www.motherandbaby.co.id/article/2013/3/25/21/Agar-anak-Rajin-Bangun-Pagi?utm_source=hootsuite&utm_campaign=hootsuite

Kape rampung (selesai)

Bismillah…
Kape ku rampung ^_^9

Alhamdulillaah…
Allahumma berkahi apa2 yg telah kulakukan selama kape.
Perbaiki diriku, hatiku, yg mungkin agak telah mengeras )””:
Berikan aku penglihatan utk bisa melihat hikmah dari sana.

Ampuni aku Ya Rabb…
Ampuni dosaku, dosa teman2ku, kumpulkan kami dalam jannah-Mu…
)’:

Allahumma aamiin

My Little Girl [lyrics]

really nice song (‘:

You are a miracle
You are a blessing from above
You brought joy to my soul
And pleasure to my eyes
In my heart I can feel it
An unexplainable feeling
Being a father
The best thing that I could ever ask for

Just thinking of you makes me smile
Holding you, looking in your eyes
I’m so grateful for having you
And everyday I pray
I pray that you’ll find your way

You know I love you, I love you
My little girl, my little girl
I ask God to bless you, and protect you always
My little girl, my little girl

You’re like a shining star
So beautiful you are
My baby girl
You light up my world
I pray that I’ll get the chance
To be around and watch you grow
And witness your first steps
And the first time when you will call me “dad”

Just thinking of you makes me smile
Holding you, looking in your eyes
I’m so grateful for having you
And everyday I pray
I pray that you’ll find your way

You know I love you, I love you
My little girl, my little girl
I ask God to bless you, and protect you always
My little girl, my little girl

I could spend hours watching you
You’re so innocent, so wonderful and pure
O God I can not express my gratitude!
But I’ll raise her good, ‘cause all I want is to please You
And now I pray You’ll guide her steps forever

You know I love you, I love you
My little girl, my little girl
I ask God to bless you, and protect you always
My little girl, my little girl

– maher zain

Maher Zain – My Little Girl | Vocals Only Version (No Music)

Jangan hilangkan Ramadhan-mu na

Apa sebenarnya indikator kamu melakukan dosa? (Bisa saja bukan, kamu ngelakuin dosa tapi ngga sadar atau ngga menganggap itu dosa?)

Kekhusyukan lenyap.

– terlalu banyak tertawa
– terlalu intens interaksi dgn lawan jenis (tambah banyak humor pula!)
– liat film2 hollywood
– denger musik
– menganggap kecil dosa2 di atas

Jangan hilangkan Ramadhan-mu na…
Jangan….

Baca buku, jangan nganggur…
Hayati terjemah Qur’an, banyak taubat, jangan gaje di tempat kape…
Dont waste time lah na…

Ya Allah….
Guide me all the way to your jannah…